Sweet Talkers: How Query Formulation Shapes Sycophancy in Romantic Relationship Advice
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Title:Sweet Talkers: How Query Formulation Shapes Sycophancy in Romantic Relationship Advice
Abstract:Large language models (LLMs) are increasingly used for emotional support and relationship advice, where a model's tendency to preserve a user's face can inadvertently reinforce harmful interpersonal behaviors. To systematically examine this risk, we developed the Romantic Relationship Advice-Seeking Prompts (RRASP) dataset of 2,400 prompts across five relationship themes and evaluated social sycophancy using the ELEPHANT framework on two consumer-facing models, GPT-5 Mini and Gemini 3 Flash. Contrary to our initial hypothesis, grammatical mood alone did not produce systematic differences in sycophantic behavior, suggesting that what a user implies matters more than how they phrase it. Instead, perspective-driven framing had a stronger influence, with gaps between original and flipped prompts widening in follow-up responses. Consistent increases in framing and moral sycophancy across turns indicate that models become more likely to accept a user's stated premises and affirm their ethical stance as a dialogue progresses. Notably, Gemini 3 Flash exhibited substantially smaller increases in moral sycophancy than GPT-5 Mini, suggesting it is more resistant to reinforcing ethically problematic positions across turns.
| Comments: | Accepted to LUHME Workshop @ EMNLP 2026 |
| Subjects: | Computation and Language (cs.CL) |
| ACM classes: | I.2.7; H.5.2 |
| Cite as: | arXiv:2609.13841 [cs.CL] |
| (or arXiv:2609.13841v1 [cs.CL] for this version) | |
| https://doi.org/10.48550/arXiv.2609.13841
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